Healing is not linear; the cycle is often repeated. – Judith L Herman M.D.

“Resolution of the trauma is never final; recovery is never complete. The impact of the traumatic event continues to reverberate throughout the survivor’s life-cycle. Issues that were sufficiently resolved at one stage of recovery may be reawakened as the survivor reaches new milestones in [their] development.”

 – Herman, JL. (1997). Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence – From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror. New York: Basic Books.

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You are not alone.


It is not your job to convince your family of the truth

Jan Frank. Door of Hope: Recognizing and Resolving the Pains of Your Past (Kindle Locations 2255-2261). Kindle Edition.

It is very difficult for us when we have spoken the truth and are maligned, ostracized, and misrepresented. Many men and women have shared a similar scenario with me over the years and it is becoming more and more prevalent. If in your family there is a situation where children are in danger, you may need to consult with a professional about any further action you need to take to insure the protection of potential victims. But you cannot make it your job to convince your family of the truth. You have offered them truth, which they have rejected. So many who have found themselves in this position spend hours, days, and months formulating letters, sending books and articles, and having endless conversations-often in their heads-about the right way to enlighten family members. This rarely results in any change and only revictimizes the survivor through the family’s repeated disbelief and rejection.