Incest Survivors United Voices of America I.S.U.V.O.A.

There are so many resources today to help survivors of incest (child sexual abuse) that I have decided to start featuring one of these resources as least one a month.  So for July 2014, I am featuring Incest Survivors United Voices of America I.S.U.V.O.A.

Incest Survivors United Voices of America I.S.U.V.O.A.

I.S.U.V.O.A. supports men, women and children that have suffered from the effects of sexual violence and child abuse. We draw upon our own personal experience and knowledge as a man and a woman that has endured these tragedies ourselves. We blend together our insights and unique perspectives in a way that is rarely seen to help others gain understanding to heal and be empowered as well to become more than just mere survivors. We hope that you enjoy our website as we each share our unique stories we each have in our journey as individuals and as friends. Our hope is that you can be encouraged and empowered to continue on the journey just as we have to find the peace of mind, strength and understanding to rise up against the devastating effects of abuse just as we have done. We share the hope that is within us to help you and others understand that healing is possible and that together we can make this world a safer place for your children today.

They also have a Blog Talk Radio Program called HOW- Healing Our Wounds Blog Talk Radio.  Check out their website for more information at: http://www.isuvoa.com

This featured resource goes well with a news article I posted back in February 2013 titled “America Has an Incest Problem”  https://paulabrave.wordpress.com/2013/02/

Be Safe – Paula Brave


Regrettable Typical Characteristics of Sibling Sexual Abuse

The following are a few things that I have found from my researching on the internet:

This is one of my favorite links about sibling sexual abuse:

http://www.secasa.co…p/family/13/285

Regrettable Typical Characteristics of Sibling Sexual Abuse

Below is based on current sibling sexual abuse research. No survivor or family necessarily fits each and every category but you may find some resemblance.

Violation of trust

  • Trust is essential in families, but a sibling who has been given a lot of responsibility and power may abuse that trust. Sibling sexual abuse often takes place when parents fail to pay attention to the trust that they have placed in one of their children.  ~ Vernon Wiehe
  • Both the victim and non-offending parents feel a violation of trust.
  • Trust is won by the abuser, and then violated in order to commit the abuse.
  • There is a misuse of power and authority by the abusing sibling.
  • The abuse is often Non-Consensual.

Serious nature

  • Family and Society tend to ignore or minimize the impact of sibling sexual abuse.
  • Sibling incest is of at least equal seriousness as Father–daughter incest.
  • Sibling sexual abuse usually accompanies emotional and physical abuse.
  • The survivor was more readily available for a longer period of time to the abuser.
  • The abuser often commits more acts of abuse over a longer period of time.
  • Sibling Sexual Abuse is often “Hands-On Abuse”.
  • The abuse often includes the most serious and intrusive acts.
  • The abuser is more likely to have penetrated the victim.

Secrecy

  • Open communication is discouraged in the family.
  • The abuser held the survivor in terror and silence.
  • The abuser is protected by family secrecy.
  • The abuse is more likely to go unreported and ignored.
  • Offenders normally have little to no consequences because they are protected by family secrecy.

Problematic Family

  • Sibling sexual abuse is the result, not the cause, of a dysfunctional family.
  • Provide poor supervision and little structure.
  • The parents/guardians tend to have had a history of some form of domestic violence.
  • Disclosure of abuse is often denied or greatly minimized.
  • Families may acknowledge the abuse, but blame and/or punish the victim.
  • Families may acknowledge the abuse, but fail to protect the victim and stop the abuse.
  • When abuse is disclosed, parents divide into teams, (victim versus offender) which compete for power, resources, and support.

Negative Consequences

  • The survivor tends to feel unprotected, powerless/helpless, ashamed, rejected, blamed, and betrayed.
  • Consequences of sibling sexual abuse are the same as those seen in other child sexual abuse survivors.  A few examples include: PTSD, instances of depression, suicidal feelings, substance abuse, eating disorders, compulsive spending, and disruptive and troublesome flashbacks.
  • Family relationships are sometimes disrupted or severed.

Coping Techniques

Coping Techniques

Smith, Lisa Ann. “In 15 Minutes You Can…Snap Out of a Funk.” Real Simple Jan. 2007: 67.


Every girl deserves respect and it starts with knowing that you have certain rights.

Respect: A Girl’s Guide to Getting Respect and Dealing When Your Your Line Is Crossed by Courtney Macavinta, Andrea R. Vander Pluym, Elizabeth Verdick. (2005) – 229 pages,

A self-help, confidence-building guide for girls offers advice on developing self-respect and discusses pride, personal appearance, and social interaction.

This book has some great information and beautiful illustrations for those of us that are still learning to love ourselves. Sibling sexual abuse striped me of my self-respect so I find myself in a continuous learning process.