Reasons why people do nothing about child sexual abusePosted: December 18, 2013
- Sexual Predator: They are guilty of child sexual abuse.
- Predator Sympathizer: They sympathize with the predator or they are trying to protect the sexual predator.
- Victim’s fault: They don’t believe the victim or they believe the victim is to blame and victim should get over it
- Child = Little grown-up: They assume kids should know better and they should protect themselves from sexual abuse.
- It’s “Stanger Danger”: They believe the myth that predators are crazed male strangers who are not responsible for their harmful behavior.
- It’s “The Norm”: Those who believe it will always be a part of life, so there’s no point in trying to end it.
- It’s Not Harmful: They believe the myth that child sexual abuse is not harmful. It is not as bad as you think it is.
- Misogyny: They believe the myth that sexual abuse only happens to girls or that girls ask for it.
- Exclusive Women’s Issue: They believe working to end sexual violence or child sexual abuse is an attack on men. They think this is a woman’s/feminist issue being “blown out of proportion.”
- Secrecy: They have skeletons in their closet.
- Lack empathy: They lack empathy, they just don’t care… if it isn’t happening to them they don’t want to know. They assume child sexual abuse rarely occurs.
- Embarrassment/Shame: It impedes on their comfort zone. What will people think?! They don’t want to bring shame to the family.
- “Passing the Buck”: “I should not get involved.” “This is between the victim and the offender.” “This is a law enforcement problem.” They believe Mothers or women are the only adults responsible for protecting children from child sexual abuse. They believe this is not a men’s issue.
- Apathy: It didn’t (or hasn’t) happened to them or anyone they know so, “why should I care.” “This really does not happen in most “normal” families.”
- Overwhelmed/Hopeless: The problem is too big to solve so just give up. Getting involved in anti-violence initiatives is too much work and feels hopeless.
- Insecurity/Lack Education: They don’t understand or know what constitutes abuse. They don’t understand what is trying to be achieved.
- More Pressing Issues: They don’t see it as pressing issue that impacts their community – too many other personal or world issues to concern themselves with.
- Denial…..plain and simple! There are just far too many people who would rather stick their heads in the sand and pretend it isn’t happening because they are too cowardly to hold the perpetrators accountable!
Inspiration of this list came from several sources surveyed and was initiated by Al Smith the creator of a child protection book “Koala and Bunny-Instilling Protective Behaviours in Children”( www.koalaandbunny.com ) along with the African version “Rhino and Elephant” ( www.sexualassaultclinic.org ). The aim of these books are to help prevent the sexual abuse of children by making them aware that they have private body parts that no one else is allowed to touch or tickle. Both books are FREE FOR ALL by visiting the websites: www.koalaandbunny.com and www.sexualassaultclinic.org .