It is not your job to convince your family of the truth

Jan Frank. Door of Hope: Recognizing and Resolving the Pains of Your Past (Kindle Locations 2255-2261). Kindle Edition.

It is very difficult for us when we have spoken the truth and are maligned, ostracized, and misrepresented. Many men and women have shared a similar scenario with me over the years and it is becoming more and more prevalent. If in your family there is a situation where children are in danger, you may need to consult with a professional about any further action you need to take to insure the protection of potential victims. But you cannot make it your job to convince your family of the truth. You have offered them truth, which they have rejected. So many who have found themselves in this position spend hours, days, and months formulating letters, sending books and articles, and having endless conversations-often in their heads-about the right way to enlighten family members. This rarely results in any change and only revictimizes the survivor through the family’s repeated disbelief and rejection.

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One Comment on “It is not your job to convince your family of the truth”

  1. clancy461 says:

    At what point do we stop trying to convince people of the truth, who do not want to see the truth, and move on? And how do we do that? How do we accept that someone we love, respect and crave approval from is either calling us a liar, or does not care?
    Is that the case, or are they in denial because of their own guilt and shame over not taking action, when so many opportunities were so plainly offered. Do they lay there awake at night for hours staring at the ceiling thinking, “If only I would have ______, I could have stopped it.” as tears flow freely from their eyes, heart and spirit? Are they so broken from regret, guilt and shame that they beg God to kill them but they are unable to die? Because that is sometimes how we feel, and we did nothing wrong!
    That isn’t our concern. Our concern is with ourselves. Our concern is with forgiveness and peace. Without offering forgiveness, there is no peace. Once there is forgiveness in OUR heart, there can be peace and we can let go and move on. I don’t think it matters who believes us or not. It doesn’t really change anything. Only our acceptance and forgiveness, moving forward toward peace and joy will change things. I hope.

    Today, things are going to change, and I am going to start with me!


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